Riding the train into my City, I happen to look to my right and see a gentilmen reading the New York Times. What caught my eye in particular about the page was the bold title "It's Not me, its you" at first I thought I must have been reading it wrong. I take a few minutes while at work to look up the article and to my surprise I was reading the title correctly.
I took a few more minutes and as I am reading the article I find myself reading life experiences of psychologist who have "pulled away" or have had 'Mini Divorces" regarding friendship. I was shocked and amazed not just at the article and what was being discussed but more so the timing in my life and how this could affect me and my perception of the relationships I have in my life. As I finish reading I think to myself the 5 "W'S," who, what, where, when, and why.
The article focuses on individuals that have come to the realization that certain people in there social circle may not share the same value or goals. Breaking-Up turns out to be just as difficult because of the fear of hurting the other persons feelings. I have to say this feeling is something I worry about myself, I mean I never intend to hurt anyone, yet as life goes on and the curve balls start hitting drastic measures have to be taken.
To quote directly from this article " The first step before you end a friendship is to connsider, very carefully and seriously if you want to end a particular friendship or if you want it to wind down." I have to personally say that I would prefer a friendship to wind down. I never felt comfortable losing friends much less going through a "Break-Up."
For me this article touches my soul, makes me reflect on my life and the events that have recently happened to me. Makes me think, "Wait...I know that feeling, I know what these people are talking about," I appreciate the timing of this article. I appreciate how I am not the only that goes through moments where a tough conversation has to be done for the better of that persons future.
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